10 Aug Be Kind to Yourself (and to your body with organic sugar scrubs!)
You have to love Oscar Wilde, the 19th-century Irish playwright, poet, author, bon vivant and master of the one-liner. He doesn’t make delightful exfoliating organic sugar scrubs, like Honeysuckle Sugar Scrub or Lavender Hand & Body Sugar Scrub, but he does get the credit for any number of quotes that still make us smile, including:
“I think that God, in creating man, somewhat overestimated his ability.”
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.”
“The only thing to do with good advice is pass it on.”
“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
“What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.”
“When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is.”
“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”
Of course, what makes Wilde’s wit so fabulous – and so enduring – is the lovely little nugget of truth tucked neatly inside the words. Take for example Wilde’s quote: “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D., used that line to lead off an article about the importance of being kind to yourself posted on the Psychology Today blog.
Pogosyan might not be as witty as Wilde, but she made a really great observation. “As a concept derived from Buddhist psychology, self-compassion entails treating oneself with kindness and care,” she says… “like we would treat a dear friend.”
Pogosyan points to Kristin Neff, who apparently researches self-compassion and has identified 3 main components of self-compassion:.
- “Self-kindness,” she explains, “refers to acting in kind and understanding ways towards ourselves. For example, instead of being critical (I’m so disorganized! I’ll never be successful!), our inner voice is supportive and warm (It’s OK that I missed the deadline. I worked hard and I’ll make it next time).”
- “A sense of common humanity is the recognition that everyone makes mistakes and no one is without their weaknesses. Accepting that we are not alone in our suffering comforts us with feelings of inclusivity rather than alienation,” Pogosyan says.
- Last but not least is mindfulness, which she says “offers a ‘meta-perspective’ on our hardships, helping us to not exaggerate our distress and become engulfed by it.”
That all makes sense, but we still like the idea of simply treating yourself the way you would treat your BFF! You could also be kind to yourself by treating yourself to your favorite organic sugar scrub from Sweet Melissa’s Sugar Scrub Store (hey, it’s just an idea).